Love this so much, Mark. I have a saying that expectations are resentments waiting to happen. I have a transgender son who’s been estranged from me for 6 1/2 years.
Last month, my beloved daughter-in-law passed away, and although it took great courage, this son came to her wake and embraced his brother who had just lost his wife. I have no expectations about the future. A door opened ever so slightly, and it’s really up to him what his next steps will be.
In fact, in that room, all three of my sons who collectively hadn’t spoken to one another in 6 1/2 years, were there together and it made my heart sing. By her death, my daughter-in-law accomplished something I could not. I miss her terribly, but I am grateful for the silver lining.
Hi Maureen, Wow. First, I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter-in-law. There sure seems to be a silver lining, and I hope it continues for you and your family. Your saying about expectations—I really like that. I might quote you on that in the future. Thank you for taking the time to share your story and reach out. It's what keeps me going each week. I'm glad we've connected.
This was a really good one Mark.
Thanks B!!
Love this so much, Mark. I have a saying that expectations are resentments waiting to happen. I have a transgender son who’s been estranged from me for 6 1/2 years.
Last month, my beloved daughter-in-law passed away, and although it took great courage, this son came to her wake and embraced his brother who had just lost his wife. I have no expectations about the future. A door opened ever so slightly, and it’s really up to him what his next steps will be.
In fact, in that room, all three of my sons who collectively hadn’t spoken to one another in 6 1/2 years, were there together and it made my heart sing. By her death, my daughter-in-law accomplished something I could not. I miss her terribly, but I am grateful for the silver lining.
Hi Maureen, Wow. First, I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter-in-law. There sure seems to be a silver lining, and I hope it continues for you and your family. Your saying about expectations—I really like that. I might quote you on that in the future. Thank you for taking the time to share your story and reach out. It's what keeps me going each week. I'm glad we've connected.
Thanks Mark. You do remember we are both Fairfield grads and so is my son who lost his wife.
Of course, I remember. I was expressing thanks for the recent dialogue and sharing. I did not know your son was a grad. What year was he?
2010